When you conquer your inner critical voice, you can have a restful night. This part of us really likes to annoy us as well as keep us up all night long. It will do anything to stir our emotions so that we pay more attention to it, which then leads to an un-restful night.
By learning to conquer your inner critical voice, you learn that it’s okay for the voice to exist, yet it is okay for you to move past it.
Pay Attention To Your Thoughts
Your thoughts are not insignificant. Before they go away, they need to be paid attention to. Our thoughts rule our lives.
The only way we can truly live in the open and present moment in our lives is to be mindful of where our thoughts are leading.
Thoughts especially like to come when a person is getting ready for bed. What I usually find myself doing about half an hour before going to go to bed, I let all the thoughts of the day flow in.
This way, the critical voice inside of me has no reason to voice these thoughts later because they’ve already been paid attention to.
By witnessing the thoughts, you are allowing them to be acknowledged. Once they are acknowledged, they have no reason to hang around.
For instance, I sometimes have a nagging thought of the mistake I may have made during the day.
How do I deal with this thought?
I find a way to fix the mistake I made. Once the issue has been resolved that the thought is trying to let me know about, it fades away.
By ignoring the thought, it could be something that could bother me all night long, hence disturbing my sleep.
Don’t Watch Your Mistakes In Replay
Some people have a habit of replaying their day over and over. Especially if they did something which turned out to be something detrimental to their day.
Some of us are very visual; we can see the entirety of the movie continually being replayed. A movie which we wish didn’t exist.
But unfortunately, it’s their running on a loop.
How can you stop this?
The easiest way I find how to stop replay of action earlier from the day is to press the pause button.
I go through each scene to see what I could’ve done better or what wasn’t in my control.
This helps me to have a better view of the movie being replayed as well I can move on from it.
Once the whole movie has been viewed as well analyzed, I then pack it up and put it away into a corner of my mind where I know it won’t pop up again.
Practice Positive Self-Talk
The best time I find to practice positive self-talk is before going to bed. I know many think that positive self-talk should be practiced as soon as waking up.
But for me, that doesn’t work. I find that in the evening an hour before bedtime if I’m kind to myself, my body will return the favor so that I can get a good night’s sleep.
Most of us live the words that we tell ourselves in our minds. Why not have those words be positive?
Self-talk can be an act of talking loudly or mentally. It doesn’t matter which way you do it so as long as the message you get to yourself is an uplifting one.
One of the best ways to practice positive self-talk is to be grateful for all that you have. Many times, myself included, we tend to look at all that we don’t have.
But imagine what could happen if we looked at all that we do have.
I know the nights that I forget to practice self positive talk; I tend to have a very restless night. The reason the night becomes restless is that I may have gone to bed with a negative frame of mind.
By changing your frame of mind, you’re allowing yourself to have the freedom to have a good night’s rest.
Identify Your Goal
Sleep is a goal we all have when it comes to nighttime. Unless you are one of those people who work the night shift, then your goal would be to have a good sleep during the daytime.
Knowing that at the end of the day, your goal is to fall asleep, you should be observant of what happened throughout your day, which may affect your nighttime routine.
A lot of times, we tend to dismiss those things which affect us during the day in a negative way. It’s those things that we disregard that come to bother us as well our mind tries to quiet down.
By making sleep our goal at the end of the day, it becomes much easier to achieve. As you know, the saying is set a goal, and you’re more likely to achieve it.
Even sleep has to be made a priority. Some people think that sleep is not a priority; they will be able to function without it.
Without sleep, everything else takes a backseat. Our body has one goal at night; it’s the only way it can rejuvenate, heal, and be ready for the next day.
Don’t Let Others Voice In Your Head
Letting others get inside your head is one of the least favors you could do for yourself.
The voice of others’ doesn’t just go on throughout the day, but that voice goes on and on into the night.
It doesn’t take long before the other voice becomes your own inner critical voice. Because the voice has taken over, your sleep is at high risk of being disrupted.
How do you keep others’ voices out of your head?
One way to keep others’ voices out of your head is by not giving them any importance. By giving them importance, you are allowing the other person to show how much they figure into your brain.
In doing this, you’re allowing that person to have that much more power over you. Basically, you’re taking that person to bed with you.
Now think about it, would you want to take that person into bed with you?
Un-wire From Your Inner Critical Voice
In order to un-wire from your inner critical voice, you will need to put your foot down. Especially since that voice really likes to be heard at night.
How can you un-wire from this voice?
First off you need to know that this voice may be your worst enemy. This is a voice that likes to argue, to belittle you as well take you down as far as you are willing to go.
To break free from this, you need to stand up for yourself. Disconnect from all the negativity that this voice tries to throw at you.
What is the best way to stop an argument? Most of us walk away. When we walk away, the other person has no one left to argue with. The same goes for our inner voice.
Once we decide we’ve had enough, there’s no more reason for it to exist to keep on sending negative thoughts.
Stop Living Under Emotion-Based Stores
What’s the one main thing that our inner critical voice tries to do?
For most, it tries to make them worry. An emotion we can do without, especially when we are getting ready to settle down for the night.
Worry is an emotion that leads to many what-ifs, as you know we can never catch the what-ifs. Once something has happened or taken place, there really is no way to go back and change that.
It’s better to stop living under emotion-based stories because all they do is create negative emotion which we can do without.
Nighttime is probably the time where we let our emotions run wild, mainly when focusing on our daytime events where emotions got involved.
As I said, there’s really is no going back to change anything that took place. It’s better to look forward to seeing what we can do differently so the outcome will be more in our favor.
Let Your Inner Coach Guide the Inner Critical Voice
If all else fails best, the best thing to do is call your inner coach guide to quiet down the critical voice so that you can have an excellent nighttime rest.
The inner coach is the one who is always telling you good things, tries to come up with solutions for problems. This is the part of you that can put the inner critical voice in its place.
Our inner coach is the one that lifts us up even when we try to tear ourselves down. This part of us brings self-compassion as well as encouragement.
For many people the inner critic goes overboard, throwing arrow after arrow of scolding, shaming as well as finding faults. By having the inner coach guide involved, you can bring this down to a minimum.
The arrows that are thrown by the inner critical voice hurt. But if you get the coach involved you have a much better chance of avoiding the hurt as well having a restful night.
So now that you’ve learned how to conquer your inner critical voice, I hope you will be able to try some of these techniques to get better sleep at night.
Now if you have successfully conquered your inner voice, maybe you need some extra help still. Check out my last post on home remedies to help you sleep.
Let me know in comments below what your inner voice does to keep you awake.
Reading is my favorite thing to do. But other than reading, I enjoy discovering new techniques on how to do something in simpler methods. My daughter likes to call me the Renaissance woman. So I do have to live up to the name.
One of my main issues is sleeping, so I’m always searching for new ways to get a good night sleep, I’m more than happy to share them with you.
My posts are either geared towards pain or self-help. Pain posts because I suffer from ongoing cancer pain. In the past 6 years of my fight with cancer, I have learned many ways to deal with pain, especially when going to bed.
The self-help posts come from my work as a mental health counselor for over 15+ years. My background in counseling training is from UFV and RRU. I also have personal trainer certification from IFA, so I might throw in some exercise posts as well.