People who show perseverance say it is key in their everyday life to get the best sleep. Good sleep habits are hard to develop, but once they are established, creating with willpower becomes a more straightforward process.
Whether your goal is to hit a new fitness milestone, eat right or earn a promotion this year, sleep is the first step to success. (Source: Michigan Health Blog)
What Is Perseverance
For me, it means having the willpower to allow myself to accomplish the goals which I have set for myself promptly. It also means thinking without blinders. Since many skip out on getting proper sleeping, thinking without blinders can become difficult. Persevering through difficult times is when our rested brains become most useful.
In my line of work, I have learned there are many different psychological tips we need to pay attention to so that we develop self-will when trying to get our rest at night. The six that have stood out to me are the ones I am going to share with you below.
How To Show Perseverance During The Day To Get Rest At Night
1. Stop the Blame Game Which Can Wreck Your Sleep
What is the rule of the blame game?
The rule is – if something goes wrong in my life, someone other than myself has to be blamed for causing the issue to take place. For some people, this can go on all night long; hence their sleep is pretty well non-existent.
Many of us overreact when things go wrong. Sometimes it feels better to place blame on another rather than where it belongs, which is us.
Blame is usually one-sided. The person placing the blame on another is not trying to understand what happened. It’s more about making someone else take responsibility for our actions.
By placing blame on another, we create avoidance. Rather than look at ourselves or our faults, we choose to push it all on to another person. This helps avoid accountability, but in reality, it keeps biting us even when we are sleeping. All the tossing and turning we do at night subconsciously notifies us that we are to blame for our actions.
How can you stop the blame game?
- Take accountability of your actions: By taking responsibility for your actions, you will emerge as a psychologically secure individual.
- Step back: The first thing you need to do is turn down your emotions to get a perspective of what is going on. Don’t let the situation move past the point where you can’t get a handle on it. Remember, we all, at some point or another in our lifetime, will cast blame. It’s in our nature. But stepping back from a situation will help to gain more control of it.
- Don’t throw others under the bus: When you find yourself disagreeing with someone, avoid trying to prove a point, and self-examine the disagreement.
- Keep away from threats or ultimatums: Saying words that will cause you to regret later are best to be avoided during times of disagreement.
2. Own Your Thoughts
At times we let others do our thinking for us. It’s almost like we think they will make better decisions on our behalf. But even this can cause disruption at night because we are undermining our abilities.
All of us are hardwired to resolve our issues. Our brains are always working to solve problems. By owning our thoughts while being inline with our unique thought patterns, we develop healthier habits of having creative and productive thinking, which can lead to a more restorative sleep for better decision-making skills.
How can you own your thoughts while working to stay focused?
Pay attention to your thoughts: Our thoughts aren’t there just to exist in our mental realm. Most times, they are there to push us into action. Starting from early morning to evening, we are exposed to many different elements of others’ ways of thinking. But remember that’s their way of thinking; you don’t need to form an opinion because someone else is letting their thoughts override yours.
Don’t let strangers persuade you: I know starting in the morning; my world exists online. Why? Because all of my work is online. So I’m continually researching to put together useful articles or posts for others to read.
Most times, the reading I’m doing is written by strangers, people I don’t know. One thing I always focus on is what will I get out of the topic I’m reading.
Letting others persuade me to their way of thinking will have me churning out content that is similar to everyone else out there.
I have no desire to do that! And I sleep better at night knowing I have my touch on what I put out there.
3. Think Consciously
By thinking consciously, you will learn to live in the moment. I love living in the moment because I don’t want to miss anything.
Some people base their ideas in the past, which then hinders their present; this creates havoc during sleep time.
Because they are always basing their present on what happened to them in the past, they create a mental block that usually rears it head at night when things are most quiet.
Yet, some think into the future, forgetting that the moment we are living in is what’s happening in our life right now.
How can you think consciously?
- Do what makes you happy: Stop focusing on what you can do to make others happy, why not make yourself happy first. As humans, we are naturally more inclined to meet our obligations and expectations others are expecting of us. This actually takes away from us from thinking for ourselves.
- Accept yourself fully: Even with our imperfections, which we all have to some degree or another, accept them. That’s what makes the real you. Don’t let people around you compare you to others to make you feel worse about yourself. On the other hand, don’t judge others by trying to be superior to them.
- Make fair use of your time: Pay attention to where your thinking is going. How much time are you spending thinking about worries which may never happen?
- Stay away from emotional attachments: These are animate or inanimate objects which can suck away your very essence while keeping you connected to unhealthy situations.
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4. Create Your Own Perceptions
Never let others’ perceptions cloud your perception.
Growing up, all I heard was we don’t have enough money to buy what you want or need. The more I listened to this, the more I let it become my truth.
My younger sibling also heard this, but she did not let it become her perception. She became a millionaire because she had the self-will to achieve something.
By taking in my parents’ words, I was interpreting their perception to be my accurate perception. I didn’t precisely do myself any favors growing up.
Don’t make the mistake I did. It took me a long time to learn that I have to own my perceptions. I would lie awake at night wondering if my parents’ fate would be my fate.
How can you create your perceptions to have your idea come into play?
- Be a conscious creator: By learning to focus with vigorous intensity, you will be able to create subtle changes that will then start appearing in physical reality. By allowing others’ thoughts to interfere with your perceptions, you push yourself out of alignment with your personal experience on earth.
- Be proud of your personal style: This is where we let others judge us. We don’t only let them judge us, but we allow their judging to interfere with who we are as an individual. Be proud of your personal style, remember you are the only one who can carry that style off.
- Ask yourself questions which matter: What would happen if you were to love the perception of yourself? Where do you see your perception leading you? How does this version of you help you when it’s time for your brain to shut down for the night?
5. Don’t Let Mind-Dust Fool You
Mind-dust is the unfocused consciousness that floats around in your brain with no purpose. Its only purpose is to deceive you into thinking about what is not valid. Mind-dust is the forefront of where our thinking goes when we are alone and getting ready to sleep.
Be aware of mind-dust as it can lead to some very dire consequences. For some who allow mind-dust to rule, their mind gets driven into a false sense of security. They always question their positives. The consciousness link to mind-dust is always free-flowing with no real goal. Perseverance becomes an issue because mind-dust leads a person astray.
How can you stay free of mind-dust?
Be aware of what you allow into your brain: Although we should all different impressions to flow in, we should also keep a check on what belief is developing with the impression. These impressions can become quite bothersome at night, which then stops us from bringing our ideas into existence.
6. Stop Being a Victim
Granted, there are times where it will feel like the whole world is against you. But then there is a time when everyone is for you, yet we feel like everyone is still out to get us.
At times we feel like we deserve to suffer and will never enjoy the success or peace we desire. This is when you need to realize you accepted being a victim and have made it your reality.
When we play the victim role, we’re doing ourselves no favor. What we’re doing is keeping ourselves contained to a victim mentality. This mentality follows us into our dreams and then stops our mental focus during the day.
How to stop being a victim?
- Go easy on yourself: As children, we were always told to be kind and play fair. But we were never told to be kind to ourselves. As a young child growing up, it was still considered a no-no for me to think of myself first. As I got into the counseling world, I realized how important it was that I put myself first.
- Don’t sabotage yourself: When a person is trapped in victimhood, that’s when they realize how vulnerable they really are. It’s almost like their expecting disaster right around the corner. This sense is most intense when good things are happening for us.
- Forgive and release: People with a victim mentality often hold on to grudges. Holding on to resentment can color our world to such an extent that we often misinterpret well-meant gestures from others. By forgiving, you permit yourself to move beyond the pain to find inner peace and freedom, which then will help you focus and create.
Some Final Thoughts About People Who Show Perseverance
Showing perseverance in everyday life can have you setting examples for others who believe in you. You are not only teaching yourself to dedicate to getting good sleep habits and being successful, but you are also allowing those others to model your good behavior.
Now that you know people who show perseverance can follow six simple tips to stay focused to get a night of better sleep, share in the comments below which tip would make a difference in your life.
Reading is my favorite thing to do. But other than reading, I enjoy discovering new techniques on how to do something in simpler methods. My daughter likes to call me the Renaissance woman. So I do have to live up to the name.
One of my main issues is sleeping, so I’m always searching for new ways to get a good night sleep, I’m more than happy to share them with you.
My posts are either geared towards pain or self-help. Pain posts because I suffer from ongoing cancer pain. In the past 6 years of my fight with cancer, I have learned many ways to deal with pain, especially when going to bed.
The self-help posts come from my work as a mental health counselor for over 15+ years. My background in counseling training is from UFV and RRU. I also have personal trainer certification from IFA, so I might throw in some exercise posts as well.